Source: PSG Konsult Houghton

This guardian will get custody of your child and must be named in your last will and testament. If you and your spouse or life partner have separate wills you should nominate the same person to avoid conflict.

Many parents also nominate an alternative person if their first choice is not willing or unable to accept the responsibility.

The right person

To choose the right person is not an easy task. First make a list of all possible candidates and then you and your spouse or partner can discuss the advantages and disadvantages of each person.

Consider the following aspects:

1. Who’s parenting style, values and religious beliefs are closest to yours?
2. Who is in the best position to accept the responsibility of caring for a child – emotionally, financially, physically, etc.?
3. With whom does the child feel comfortable already?
4. Would your child have to move and would that cause problems?
5. Does the person you are considering have other children? If so, would your child fit in or be left on his or her own?
6. Does the person have enough time and energy to give to your child?

When the shortlist is complete talk to the “candidates” to determine how they would feel to act as a guardian.

Write down your wishes and dreams for your child and attach the letter to your last will and testament. Consider things like education, religion and values that are important to you.